Category: Teen bullying


Have you seen the ad with the two vampires selling a breakfast food, where they say, “Mornings, who knew?”Well, this ad and the slogan got me started thinking on what a mom doesn’t want to know. How this happened  I don’t know. It just happened that way, and I went with it, because I’m creative.

This led to thinking of all the things a mom really and truly does not want to know about. You know what I mean; the things your child does when he or she is older. Here are ten things we Moms really and truly do not want to know about our kids:

1. When the first time your child had sex. Nope, I do not want to know this. Maybe I’m just too old school and don’t believe in sharing is caring, but I really do not want to know the particulars. Tell me when you are thirty how old you were when you had sex for the first time…or maybe never.

2. Moms really do not want to know how drunk you got with your friends on the weekend. We moms also do not want to know that you got in a car drunk and drove home drunk. Unless you got hurt, killed someone we really do not want to know, because we will start yelling!

3. Moms really do not want to know when our kids are failing school. We don’t want a report card shoved under our faces when we are falling asleep on the couch, looking very comfortable and almost asleep when that bad report card surfaces. Show us when we are alert enough to yell at you. Sure, I get it, that’s the reason kids play it that way. But if you hide that report card, we’ll find out sooner or later.

4. Moms do not want to know when our kids get in trouble at school.All moms want to have that perfect child who gets great grades, and gets along well with ALL the other kids. But sometimes, our kids no matter how hard we try to do get in trouble. Sometimes it’s a fight they started, and other times it’s a fight where your child defended himself, and the kids at school taunted him.

5. Moms do not want to know when our kids get in trouble with the law. But most moms will say, “I’ll be right there.”

6. No Mom ever wants to hear the words, “There’s been an accident.” We never ever want to find out that one of our kids got into an accident, caused anyone any harm, is in the hospital, and I will not even say the last four letter word, because I do not wish to even write it out.

7. Moms do not want to know their kids are bullying other kids at school.

8. Moms do not want to know that our kids have completely lost it, becoming that kid that loses it and shoots so many kids at school.

9. Most Moms do not want to know that their daughter got pregnant at a really young age. We also do not want to know that our son got his girlfriend, or a female friend pregnant. As Moms we really do not want our children’s future’s ruined, but most of us moms will be there in a heartbeat to help our children out.

10. Moms do not want to know that their child is flunking college. We really do not want to know this. But considering I’ve already been down this road, I did what I thought best and took my son, home and told him we would work through this together. Considering I don’t understand anything above 10th grade Geometry, I could see why taking three math courses in one semester did my son in.

Moms do not want to know that our kids are sexting each other or posting naked pics of themselves or other kids online. We also do not want to know our kids are texting while driving, so don’t text while driving. And do not do what ALL the other kids do, just because All the other kids are doing something stupid. If you think it is stupid, don’t do it. Copyright 2013, written by Kate Johns a talented writer, who has been writing professionally since 2004!

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I was sickened  after hearing  the story of the 12-year-old New Jersey girl who was murdered by two teenage brothers. I felt I had to take action. Two brothers who are 15 and 17,  murdered a 12-year-old girl in their home. They lured her into their home on the promise of giving her parts for her BMX bike. What I also discovered is that this 12-year-old girl loved her BMX bike so much so that she talked about it on Facebook, and these two freepers read this online , and decided to kill her.

I was so sickened by what these two boys did to this 12-year-old girl, named Autumn Pasquale, that I had to tell you parents how to keep your kids safe:

1. Do not allow your kids to go on Facebook or Twitter until they are 15. No kids younger than 13 should be allowed on Facebook. Kids become obsessed with these social networks, they insult each other , tease, bully. Young children and teens are not equipped with reasoning abilities or the ability to mentally walk away from taunts, threats, and viciousness other kids will do.

2.  Keep your kids safe by monitoring their location all day and night.Check in with your kids periodically. Call your child on her cellphone to find out how she is and where she is. Have your child come home several times a day to have a check in time. Any child under the age of 13 is usually not old enough to know about bad people out there.

3. Tell your kids to NOT go into the homes of strangers. Tell them it is okay to go into a friend’s home. But do not allow them to go into strangers’ homes. Remember stranger danger when you were a kid? Well, teach it to your kids, even if they are older than 13!

4. Have your kids hang out at your house when you are home. Then you will get to meet your kid’s friends. You will discover who they are hanging out with, what your kid’s interests are, and what they do with their friends.

5.  Keep your kids safe by buying them  cellphones, and have them call you every hour if you will be away from home a lot. For working parents, cellphones are a Godsend. I never believed in buying my younger kids cellphones, but cellphones may help save a life, or help the police track where your child is.

6. Tell your kids to always ask you if it is okay to go to someone’s home. Make sure they are always communicating with you. In today’s world of unreality TV, violent video games where people are shot, murdered and the killer keeps going unscathed, it may look cool to kids to do this in real life.

7. Also tell your kids to call you and tell you where they are at all times. I realize you will come off as Big Brother, or a Nutjob parent, but do want your kids to stay alive and safe?

8.Monitor you kids online usage. I know it’s pretty much a joke to monitor your kids online, because there are so many sites, and they outlast you well into the night. But, do try to monitor them. Tell them to go to bed at night. Take away the computer. Set down rules, so they stay safe!

In today’s violent, nasty world, you as a parent must protect your kids. Keep your kids safe, even if it means you become the uncool, pain in the butt parent. You’re better off knowing your kids are safe and okay rather than becoming the next target for some mental patient! Copyright 2012, written by Kate Johns, who has been a professional freelance writer since 2004.

I want my kids to have a great life. But I also know how hard it is on kids today with being bullied. I was bullied, and given a hard time when I was in middle school. It wasn’t an experience I would ever want anyone to go through. Because I was shy, skinny and tall I was given garbage by kids until I reached about 16.

It was rough. It is worse for teenagers and young adults today, because kids are ganging up on each other on social networks. They threaten, taunt and terrorize kids at school, in school hallways, anywhere and everywhere where teachers,school officials, and cameras are not present to see what is happening.The problem is many kids will just follow a larger kid, or the captain of the football team because they do not want to be ousted from the group.

My parents always told me to treat other people as I would want to be treated. I decided well into middle age, that I want to treat other people with respect, and friendliness. It’s something you would expect from other people right?

With the growth of social networks, kids think it doesn’t matter what they are saying. Teens think things like, ” Who cares what I say to someone else when I can’t see that person and they can’t see me. I can say whatever I want, and do whatever I want.”

But when one teenager is going through a difficult time, it is time for teenagers to stop and think. It is not normal to not accept other people because they are different from you. That’s what makes the world a great place; having different life experiences to lead a fulfilling, awesome life.

Parents need to start teaching their kids to be leaders, not followers. Parents, teachers and school administrators also need to teach kids to respect themselves and other people, and to accept other people’s differences.

Maybe kids should be faced with living life in another person’s shoes for one day to see what it is like to live the life of someone who is really thin, overweight or not popular. copyright 2011, written by Kate Johns who is a talented professional freelance author, who has been writing  since 2004!