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My daughter has reached the turbulent, hormone crazed teen years. As I’m sure your child will soon reach, or perhaps you have already been through  this hellish nightmare while going through menopausal mood swings.

When my kids were younger they were a lot easier to deal with. It was fun to play hide ‘n’ seek, go to the zoo numerous times a year, and have a young child ask me to take her to the beach or the pool.

NOT ANYMORE

Those, fun, child-like years, where mom got to have some fun  are gone. My eldest child is busy  studying for college tests,and finding his path in life.  My youngest is a hormonal mess of nightmare proportions, where I find myself lingering too long at stores to avoid going home, facing a tantrum throwing person who used to be my best buddy.

Reality hit home last year when my daughter was 12, and she refused to go to what used to be our favorite place—the pool. My daughter loved to swim, diving all the way to the bottom of nine feet of water, without any qualms, retrieving  plastic swim rings, or jumping in the water with the glee only a young child can have.

Now when I say, “Do you want to go to the pool?” the answer is almost always , “No.” With summer heat-giving its last hurrah of the year, I am doing housework, wistfully thinking of years gone by when my daughter was a small child who brought much delight to us all. She was the one, after all, that made us feel like a family.

She was the one that ran from the car to the water’s edge at the beach, jumping in with all of her clothes on, as I yelled, “We can’t swim here, there’s no lifeguard.”She was the carefree child who ran up and down the beach’s shore kicking water at her older brother until he would yell, “Hey cut it out!” Which of course was followed by the two of them kicking water at each other, and splashing each other until they were both soaked. Usually they would get me soaked in the process, as I tried in vain, to get them out of the water, due to being on an unguarded section of beach.

But now I have been relegated to—-not seen with status. When I asked my 13 YO daughter to go to the beach or our once favorite spot—the pool, she would sullenly explode with, “No, I don’t want to be seen with you, at the pool.”

One time, she nastily said, “Someone from school might see me.”After the initial shock wore off, I  shook it off saying to my daughter, “Do you want to live your life in fear, or enjoy the life you have?” So, I went to the pool alone, enjoying time spent out of the house, where I spend many hours doing housework, researching, and writing.

Recently, when I asked my daughter if she wanted to go shopping for new school clothes she answered, “No, I don’t want to be seen with you.”

So, I figured I saved a lot of money NOT buying my daughter any new clothes for school.

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My husband and I were discussing one night how our kids spend most of their time cooped up in their bedrooms. When they do come out, they complain about two things—-how hot it is upstairs, and how there is no food in the house. My husband came up with a great idea to get our kids out of their rooms.

Here it is Moms and Dads— the way to get your kids to come out of their rooms to do something else, such as housework, going outside, making friends, etc—-turn off the electricity to their rooms.

When you think about it, it is a relatively simple concept, turning off the electricity. Unless those fuses supply electricity to an important room such as the kitchen or a living room , then I’d advise you to not click that fuse over to off. And also if you need the electricity to keep a person alive, such as using oxygen, or someone who desperately needs the air conditioning always on—-then don’t mess with the electricity.

When we thought about it, we realized we would  save a lot of money each month if we turned off the electricity to our kid’s rooms. They both have more electronics than I knew existed. They both have computers plugged into the sockets, TV’s, video game players, cellphones, iPods, and Kindles.  I didn’t have my own TV, and cellphone in  my bedroom until I got married, buying them myself!

REALLY? How many electronic toys do you need in one room?

How many things do kids need to have in one space to amuse themselves? What happened to good old-fashioned reading? Reading books is a great way to escape into another word, discovering other worlds. Reading books increasing your vocabulary, helps a person become more social–because you have more to talk about, increasing one’s spelling abilities.

As a parent, you can also turn off the Internet, or the wireless Internet connection, bringing your zombie-like kids out of their bedrooms. They may complain profusely, but tell them it is for their own good.

My husband I have not decided exactly what night, or nights we will turn off the electricity to our kids’ rooms, but we will in an attempt to flush them out of their rooms.

The other day I bought  some Not for Your Mama jeans. I spent  almost  2 hours looking for a pair of jeans that would look good on me, weren’t super expensive, and that didn’t droop in my butt area.

For many years now I’ve been buying jeans, pants, that do not look good on me. And you want to know why? It’s a combination of reasons; I never could afford to buy anything for myself that wasn’t on clearance. I have skinny legs, no butt, and a fat stomach. I am not your average curvaceous woman. My body does not fit any of the fruit shapes; like apple, pear, etc.

Let’s just say, I can not wear skinny jeans. They were created exclusively for teenagers! But, I can’t wear the jeans that have more room in the thighs, waist and legs, either! I don’t have those issues where nearly every jeans, and pants manufacturer create pants for women who do have these issues.

So for the first time in many years, I bought Not for your Mama jeans, that make my butt look good. And you know how I know this? My daughter said, “Hey Mom, nice jeans, you don’t look like an old lady in them!”

After our shopping excursion, my husband noticed, and complimented  me with this eloquent saying, “Hey, your butt doesn’t look droopy in those jeans!” Copyright 2012, written by Kate johns, a professional writer since 2004.

Having problems trying to figure out what to do with your college child’s room now that he has moved out? It doesn’t last long. Once you get used to having more freedom, you realize there’s a whole lot of living going on. It’s time to party!! Written by Kate Johns

Here are five fun, creative things to do with your child’s bedroom when he goes to college:

1.Create an entertainment room.

Besides having a living room or a family room, you might want to have an area of your house that can be a man-cave, or an entertainment room. This is the room you shove that old bed out of, put furniture you really want in here like a recliner, a pool table, a big screen TV, and a stereo system. Place a small basketball hoop, a Nintendo Wii system and have some fun while losing weight.

2.Make your college bound child’s room into an office.

Okay, I agree this is a boring thing to do with an emptyish room. Store the bed somewhere else, move your child’s older furniture out replacing it with a brand new functional home office. You can either start your own new business or do office related work at home. This is a great way to make extra money to pay for college!

3. Design a workout room.

Utilize this NEW space in your home to lose those unwanted pounds. Move workout equipment into your child’s room such as a  stationary bike, and an elliptical,  a punching bag, or whatever you want to work out on.

4. Create a dance studio(How much more fun can you get out of your college child’s bedroom than this?)

Create a state of the art dance studio. Paint the walls with fun colors, so that when your ceiling mounted disco ball arrives, you can groove to the music and have some major fun. You can dance alone, or with your spouse/life partner. Dance with your other kids still at home. You can also create a dance studio for the younger kids to dance, having fun while your oldest child is away at college.

5. Create a hobby room.

Don’t cry when your child leaves home for college, have a great time finding a hobby. Utilize that old bedroom as your new hobby studio! Design a place to do what you always really wanted to do; whether that is sewing, writing,or painting. Allow the inner artist in you to come out to design new creations. Copyright 2011, written by Kate Johns, a talented freelance author since 2004!