Category: public schools

Parents teach your kids to think for themselves.

When my husband and I moved from a big city to a medium-sized city I became a stay at home mom, even though we couldn’t afford to do so. What I noticed was kids not thinking for themselves. Kids  are taught in public schools to work in groups, go with the crowd, do as everyone else does, and basically to not think for themselves.

So, I am putting out a call to action parents, that you must teach your kids to think for themselves. Kids are taught from the time they enter pre-school to work with a group, to work with their friends. What I’m seeing in public schools, and with many kids today, is that they are just following each other. It does not help that kids are following each other and big name stars on Twitter, Facebook and other social media.What it comes down to is kids follow each other, and seem to be very much like the character in the Wizard of Oz; The Tin Man who didn’t have a brain.

It is up to you mom and dad, to teach your kids to think for themselves. You must teach your kids to not always follow what everyone says and does. That’s what makes kids able to function in society.Raise a leader, not a follower. Tell your kids that if they don’t like what the other kids are saying or doing to walk away, or to not engage in that activity.

Just because there are numerous social networking sites on the Internet and numerous reality Tv shows enabling our children to become followers of self promotional stunts, drinking excessively, doing drugs does not mean you have to raise a follower.

Teach your kids to think and stand up for themselves. Raise a pack of leaders. Leaders led our great nation of America into what truly makes America a great nation. If it had not been for leaders thinking for themselves over 200 years ago, there would not be an America.

Teach your kids to think for themselves, otherwise they will follow you around the house, watch a lot of TV, and never let you get any work done. If you teach your kids to think for themselves, thus becoming strong, independent people, you are ensuring successful adults with great futures.Copyright 2012, written by Kate Johns a professional writer sicne 2004!


Don’t let your kids become depressed, ignored, or upset about school.

Without being a major hover parent, this is what you can do to help your kids from being ignored at school:

1. Check up on your child everyday, by asking how school was. Ask specific questions, not general ones. More specific questions, such as “In health class today, did you discuss  bullying?”

2. Set up email accounts with each one of your kids’ teacher’s in the beginning of the school year.You will maintain a regular connection with your kid’s teachers this way.

3. Go to your kid’s open houses. You will see your kid’s schools, their teachers, and other parents. You will get a general feel for the school, and for what the curriculum wull be for the year.

4. Set up conferences with your kid’s teachers.You will meet the teachers. You will discover if the teachers are good at their jobs, or if they are likely to ignore your kids.

5. Maintain a regular connection with your child. Always talk to your child about school, and her friends.

6. Volunteer at your kid’s schools. Volunteer for whatever you can for your kids’ schools. Become a parent leader, getting to know other parents.

7. Make sure you know who your kids’ friends are. Have your kids invite their friends to your home while you are home. This way, you can meet them and find out more about them.

8. Limit your kids’ time on the internet, watching TV, and using their cellphones, etc. Kids will be kids, and may become addicted to using their iPods, cellphones, computers, and every other technology invented recently. Limit their time on these technologies. Make certain your kids are doing their homework, and that they are not staying up until four in the morning texting friends.

9. Tell your child to be as awesome as she can be. In other words help your child to strive for bigger and better things. Encourage your child to strive for more things. This way, she will make more friends, and, thus feeling better about herself and about her school, her life, need I go on?

10. Take preventive action now, so that you do not have to take corrective action later.

Keep your kids from being ignored at school, by having them speak up in class, talk to their teachers, and always keep the lines of communication open with your child. Copyright 2012, written by Kate Johns a professional writer since 2004!

In reality there are numerous reasons for the recent school shootings, but the main reason is because nobody cares. The kids that kill each other are ignored, bullied, mistreated, taunted, or teased. What I’m seeing firsthand is a public school system that is as much to blame as the parents, Internet social networking sites, violence on TV, and the kids themselves.

But one of the main reasons is because the kids are ignored. This is just as bad as bullying. When kids are ignored in school,  they feel bad about themselves. Traditionally, the happy, outgoing and popular kids do well in school. People do not want to hang out with the shy, quiet, introverted, geeky kids. It’s just the way society is. It is proven in society that business people will hire tall, attractive, outgoing people more often than hiring an unhappy, sullen, not good-looking person!

With numerous public school budget costs, teachers being overworked, many children are  ignored. I know this firsthand. My daughter is failing two classes at her new school. I’ve been asking if she has homework every night, and she tells me . “Not much.”

I completely admit that my daughter is not doing all of the assigned homework, and she has not been doing all of the in school classroom assignments. But, the reason I know she is being ignored, and that the teachers at this particular school do not care, is because the situation was ignored!

A school generated progress report  was sent home by the school. My child’s classes were listed, and so were the grades. Two out of my child’s grades were listed as failing. I had to look three times at the grades to make sure the numbers were correct. After blowing a gasket, and lecturing my child, I called the school, and I sent emails to the teachers of my child’s classes.

After receiving emails back, the teachers essentially said my child has not been doing the work she has been given. Okay, fine I accept that. But why wasn’t something done? What happened to personal responsiblity? And yes, I mean on both sides of the fence.

When I told my husband this, he said, “When I forgot my homework, after so many times, the teacher took recess away, or made me do the homework during a study hall, or I received detention. ”

So what I’m wondering here is why didn’t one of these teachers take action? Why didn’t my child receive detention, or disciplinary action? Why didn’t one of these teachers send an email home, call me at home?  They’d rather just ignore the situation, essentially doing nothing, allowing another child to fail school? What happened to the government program; “No child left behind?”

When a child  that is failing two classes is ignored, without anyone doing something, then I am making an inductive leap here, saying because she is ignored by teachers, wouldn’t that mean that many other kids are also ignored? This means those kids that are at risk for becoming bad kids, are also ignored.

So, in school only the super popular kids, and the major problem kids get any attention, and kids who are failing receive no attention!

With the scary events of recent school killings, it makes me afraid of what else could be going on, or NOT going on at public schools across America.

The parents of small children are getting away with murder.It’s sick, it’s unjust, and it is happening all over the United States. When Casey Anthony was allowed to walk free because the case of her allegedly killing her daughter Caylee Anthony was not proven beyond a reasonable doubt. In other words the prosecution could not place Casey Anthony at the scene murdering her child.

Yes, I know what I am saying sounds horrible, and I am placing blame on a young mother, but obviously something is wrong with the fact that Casey Anthony was allowed to walk out of jail and to live her life in freedom after her daughter died, and she lied about the child’s whereabouts. She lied about who took her child. She went out and partied like it was 1999, and had a great time doing exactly what she wanted without having to take care of her precious little daughter.

Now, almost on a daily basis, we are seeing that more children are suddenly missing from their homes. They are gone, without a trace. And I for one am blaming the widely publicized Casey Anthony case for this rash of missing children. If this case had not been pushed at people by the media on a daily basis, then we would not have known so much about this case. People learned how to murder a small child, and then how to cover up the crime. In a sense I am blaming this oversensationalized case, and the media for publicizing the Casey Anthony case everyday.

Since Casey Anthony walked out of jail and is living a life of freedom, many small children across the United States have become missing. This is happening to little kids, and it is sick. And yes, I am allowing my emotions to get the better of me. But someone has to speak up for the small children who are becoming faces of the missing seen on posters, and on the side of milk cartons.

It’s to the point where I do not want to watch the news anymore at all. I just want to put blinders on, so I can’t see what horrible things parents are doing to their small, helpless, unable to defend themselves children.

My mother warned me that public school systems have been dumbing down our kids for years.

How do I know schools are dumbing down our kids?

I am seeing it happening firsthand. My kids are being taught a less than stellar education. They think I am being mean, or hyper critical when I edit their language arts skills, or lack thereof. My kids think I’m being unreasonable when I tell them to write coherent sentences, using complete sentences, and correct grammar. When my mother attended school many years ago, she told me she had a class size of about 40 students. The teachers were strict. Kids had to learn, or they were not allowed to pass onto the next grade. Today,  kids are passed up to the next grade, even though they can’t complete a simple sentence, and do not have any knowledge of American history.

In today’s public schools, kids are offered a myriad of learning options, that have nothing to do with gaining a basic education, such as learning how to dance, learning about other countries, and they are offered several languages they may never use such as Mandarin. Although, I am upset over public school budget cuts, removing all the “extras” from my daughter’s school system such as computer keyboarding, and other languages kids may need to know such as Spanish.

My mother was taught at a small public school many, many years ago. The kids at this small school were not offered numerous sports, and group activities. But she has perfect penmanship. She gained a wonderful knowledge of the English language. My Mother was taught our country’s history, so that she would have a working knowledge of how our government works, and what previous history America had.

In my Mother’s day in school, kids were also taught more useful business skills, of typing, writing business letters, how to act professionally at work, and how to dress at work.  When I was in high school professional skills were not taught, but typing was offered. Professionalism is not taught at public schools today. Sad to say, public schools are dumbing down not only the system but our kids as well.

Here is the question I am posing to you today: Is it better to volunteer for your kids’ activities or it better to not volunteer?

Many eons ago when I was a kid growing up parents did not volunteer to be timers, coaches, or group leaders. Okay, there were some parents who did this, but I have to say parents were not as involved with kids’ schools, and activities as they are today.Kids are used to seeing their parents as well as other parents volunteering at their schools on many occasions.

Maybe it is a truly great thing that parents are volunteering, helping their kids, because without so many volunteers, many groups, and activities would not be able to function properly, or we parents would be paying more money for our kids to belong to these groups.

So I came up with five cons and five pros for and against parents volunteering:


1. Parents with a lot of kids may never get a moment off.

2. Start feeling like you could do this as your job.

3. Sooner or later you will get the illness the kids have been carrying for weeks now.

4. You don’t get to watch much nighttime TV, (is that such as bad thing?).

5. You may be asked to give more than you have the time or money for.


1. You get to see your kids more often.

2. You will establish relationships with teachers and coaches.

3. You may even become a mentor  to the kids.

4. You will develop a better lifestyle, thus feeling better about yourself.

5. You can use your volunteerism on a resume, making you look good for that promotion.

In the end it’s up to you. While you may spend countless hours volunteering, in the end becoming a parent volunteer will help you build a stronger relationship with your kids, your spouse, and your community. Besides, single parents, this is a great way to meet other single parents.And of course this is a way for new parents to make new friends.

I want my kids to have a great life. But I also know how hard it is on kids today with being bullied. I was bullied, and given a hard time when I was in middle school. It wasn’t an experience I would ever want anyone to go through. Because I was shy, skinny and tall I was given garbage by kids until I reached about 16.

It was rough. It is worse for teenagers and young adults today, because kids are ganging up on each other on social networks. They threaten, taunt and terrorize kids at school, in school hallways, anywhere and everywhere where teachers,school officials, and cameras are not present to see what is happening.The problem is many kids will just follow a larger kid, or the captain of the football team because they do not want to be ousted from the group.

My parents always told me to treat other people as I would want to be treated. I decided well into middle age, that I want to treat other people with respect, and friendliness. It’s something you would expect from other people right?

With the growth of social networks, kids think it doesn’t matter what they are saying. Teens think things like, ” Who cares what I say to someone else when I can’t see that person and they can’t see me. I can say whatever I want, and do whatever I want.”

But when one teenager is going through a difficult time, it is time for teenagers to stop and think. It is not normal to not accept other people because they are different from you. That’s what makes the world a great place; having different life experiences to lead a fulfilling, awesome life.

Parents need to start teaching their kids to be leaders, not followers. Parents, teachers and school administrators also need to teach kids to respect themselves and other people, and to accept other people’s differences.

Maybe kids should be faced with living life in another person’s shoes for one day to see what it is like to live the life of someone who is really thin, overweight or not popular. copyright 2011, written by Kate Johns who is a talented professional freelance author, who has been writing  since 2004!