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I was sickened  after hearing  the story of the 12-year-old New Jersey girl who was murdered by two teenage brothers. I felt I had to take action. Two brothers who are 15 and 17,  murdered a 12-year-old girl in their home. They lured her into their home on the promise of giving her parts for her BMX bike. What I also discovered is that this 12-year-old girl loved her BMX bike so much so that she talked about it on Facebook, and these two freepers read this online , and decided to kill her.

I was so sickened by what these two boys did to this 12-year-old girl, named Autumn Pasquale, that I had to tell you parents how to keep your kids safe:

1. Do not allow your kids to go on Facebook or Twitter until they are 15. No kids younger than 13 should be allowed on Facebook. Kids become obsessed with these social networks, they insult each other , tease, bully. Young children and teens are not equipped with reasoning abilities or the ability to mentally walk away from taunts, threats, and viciousness other kids will do.

2.  Keep your kids safe by monitoring their location all day and night.Check in with your kids periodically. Call your child on her cellphone to find out how she is and where she is. Have your child come home several times a day to have a check in time. Any child under the age of 13 is usually not old enough to know about bad people out there.

3. Tell your kids to NOT go into the homes of strangers. Tell them it is okay to go into a friend’s home. But do not allow them to go into strangers’ homes. Remember stranger danger when you were a kid? Well, teach it to your kids, even if they are older than 13!

4. Have your kids hang out at your house when you are home. Then you will get to meet your kid’s friends. You will discover who they are hanging out with, what your kid’s interests are, and what they do with their friends.

5.  Keep your kids safe by buying them  cellphones, and have them call you every hour if you will be away from home a lot. For working parents, cellphones are a Godsend. I never believed in buying my younger kids cellphones, but cellphones may help save a life, or help the police track where your child is.

6. Tell your kids to always ask you if it is okay to go to someone’s home. Make sure they are always communicating with you. In today’s world of unreality TV, violent video games where people are shot, murdered and the killer keeps going unscathed, it may look cool to kids to do this in real life.

7. Also tell your kids to call you and tell you where they are at all times. I realize you will come off as Big Brother, or a Nutjob parent, but do want your kids to stay alive and safe?

8.Monitor you kids online usage. I know it’s pretty much a joke to monitor your kids online, because there are so many sites, and they outlast you well into the night. But, do try to monitor them. Tell them to go to bed at night. Take away the computer. Set down rules, so they stay safe!

In today’s violent, nasty world, you as a parent must protect your kids. Keep your kids safe, even if it means you become the uncool, pain in the butt parent. You’re better off knowing your kids are safe and okay rather than becoming the next target for some mental patient! Copyright 2012, written by Kate Johns, who has been a professional freelance writer since 2004.

The parents of small children are getting away with murder.It’s sick, it’s unjust, and it is happening all over the United States. When Casey Anthony was allowed to walk free because the case of her allegedly killing her daughter Caylee Anthony was not proven beyond a reasonable doubt. In other words the prosecution could not place Casey Anthony at the scene murdering her child.

Yes, I know what I am saying sounds horrible, and I am placing blame on a young mother, but obviously something is wrong with the fact that Casey Anthony was allowed to walk out of jail and to live her life in freedom after her daughter died, and she lied about the child’s whereabouts. She lied about who took her child. She went out and partied like it was 1999, and had a great time doing exactly what she wanted without having to take care of her precious little daughter.

Now, almost on a daily basis, we are seeing that more children are suddenly missing from their homes. They are gone, without a trace. And I for one am blaming the widely publicized Casey Anthony case for this rash of missing children. If this case had not been pushed at people by the media on a daily basis, then we would not have known so much about this case. People learned how to murder a small child, and then how to cover up the crime. In a sense I am blaming this oversensationalized case, and the media for publicizing the Casey Anthony case everyday.

Since Casey Anthony walked out of jail and is living a life of freedom, many small children across the United States have become missing. This is happening to little kids, and it is sick. And yes, I am allowing my emotions to get the better of me. But someone has to speak up for the small children who are becoming faces of the missing seen on posters, and on the side of milk cartons.

It’s to the point where I do not want to watch the news anymore at all. I just want to put blinders on, so I can’t see what horrible things parents are doing to their small, helpless, unable to defend themselves children.

Here is the question I am posing to you today: Is it better to volunteer for your kids’ activities or it better to not volunteer?

Many eons ago when I was a kid growing up parents did not volunteer to be timers, coaches, or group leaders. Okay, there were some parents who did this, but I have to say parents were not as involved with kids’ schools, and activities as they are today.Kids are used to seeing their parents as well as other parents volunteering at their schools on many occasions.

Maybe it is a truly great thing that parents are volunteering, helping their kids, because without so many volunteers, many groups, and activities would not be able to function properly, or we parents would be paying more money for our kids to belong to these groups.

So I came up with five cons and five pros for and against parents volunteering:

CONS

1. Parents with a lot of kids may never get a moment off.

2. Start feeling like you could do this as your job.

3. Sooner or later you will get the illness the kids have been carrying for weeks now.

4. You don’t get to watch much nighttime TV, (is that such as bad thing?).

5. You may be asked to give more than you have the time or money for.

PROS

1. You get to see your kids more often.

2. You will establish relationships with teachers and coaches.

3. You may even become a mentor  to the kids.

4. You will develop a better lifestyle, thus feeling better about yourself.

5. You can use your volunteerism on a resume, making you look good for that promotion.

In the end it’s up to you. While you may spend countless hours volunteering, in the end becoming a parent volunteer will help you build a stronger relationship with your kids, your spouse, and your community. Besides, single parents, this is a great way to meet other single parents.And of course this is a way for new parents to make new friends.

One of the toughest things a parent faces is sending a child off to college. It’s tough to let your baby walk out of the house, possibly living hundreds, perhaps thousands of miles away from your protective, loving arms. While you may cry, feel depressed, and miss seeing your baby every day, it does get better.

How can you allow your child to go off to college, leaving the nest to lead her own life?

1. You have to allow your child the freedom to start a life of her own. You just have to face it. It’s tough, but mom and dad, you have to allow your child to go on this exciting opportunity.

2. Make some rules for your college age child. In other words, set limits, for your child, so that she will still have boundaries, knowing you still love her. But walk the thin line, mom and dad, set realistic limits.

3. Call or text your child at least once a week. During the first year, she may not want to hear from you at all—loving her new freedom. She may also be horribly homesick and whine everyday. Still you may have the college freshman who is homesick, but never tells you there are any problems. Texting is cooler than calling!!

4. Visit your child at school, and make certain she comes home for the holidays. During a non busy weekend plan to visit her. This way your college child will know you love and support her, but that you are not bugging her.

5. Take action to fill the void of your college age child away at school. Even though you tell yourself you will not miss your baby, you will. Sometimes this is tougher on dads who won’t acknowledge these feelings. Take action now by joining groups, going for walks, starting a new hobby.

6.Change that now empty bedroom into a room you will enjoy such as a hobby room, entertainment room, possibly an office. Either that or close the door until your baby comes back home to visit.

7. Ask your college kid to send pictures via technology—- cellphones,Skype, the Internet, which you are probably paying the bills for anyways. Pics of her dorm room, her friends, herself, pics of her school, etc. Now, you get a glimpse into the exciting life your college child is now leading.

8. Be supportive of your college child who is enjoying her new freedom. She may have left the nest, but you can still love her from afar. Call her, Skype her with the entire family present. If other family members are not present, have other siblings call, text her. Ask Grandparents to call her. Be supportive by listening to her problems and do not complain about your own. Send her care packages, filled with new clothing, cookies.

Remember—- have a good sense of humor parents of college bound kids. You might need it, if you suddenly see your child being roused from a college party on the reality TV show, “Campus Cops.”