Category: Bullying

I was sickened  after hearing  the story of the 12-year-old New Jersey girl who was murdered by two teenage brothers. I felt I had to take action. Two brothers who are 15 and 17,  murdered a 12-year-old girl in their home. They lured her into their home on the promise of giving her parts for her BMX bike. What I also discovered is that this 12-year-old girl loved her BMX bike so much so that she talked about it on Facebook, and these two freepers read this online , and decided to kill her.

I was so sickened by what these two boys did to this 12-year-old girl, named Autumn Pasquale, that I had to tell you parents how to keep your kids safe:

1. Do not allow your kids to go on Facebook or Twitter until they are 15. No kids younger than 13 should be allowed on Facebook. Kids become obsessed with these social networks, they insult each other , tease, bully. Young children and teens are not equipped with reasoning abilities or the ability to mentally walk away from taunts, threats, and viciousness other kids will do.

2.  Keep your kids safe by monitoring their location all day and night.Check in with your kids periodically. Call your child on her cellphone to find out how she is and where she is. Have your child come home several times a day to have a check in time. Any child under the age of 13 is usually not old enough to know about bad people out there.

3. Tell your kids to NOT go into the homes of strangers. Tell them it is okay to go into a friend’s home. But do not allow them to go into strangers’ homes. Remember stranger danger when you were a kid? Well, teach it to your kids, even if they are older than 13!

4. Have your kids hang out at your house when you are home. Then you will get to meet your kid’s friends. You will discover who they are hanging out with, what your kid’s interests are, and what they do with their friends.

5.  Keep your kids safe by buying them  cellphones, and have them call you every hour if you will be away from home a lot. For working parents, cellphones are a Godsend. I never believed in buying my younger kids cellphones, but cellphones may help save a life, or help the police track where your child is.

6. Tell your kids to always ask you if it is okay to go to someone’s home. Make sure they are always communicating with you. In today’s world of unreality TV, violent video games where people are shot, murdered and the killer keeps going unscathed, it may look cool to kids to do this in real life.

7. Also tell your kids to call you and tell you where they are at all times. I realize you will come off as Big Brother, or a Nutjob parent, but do want your kids to stay alive and safe?

8.Monitor you kids online usage. I know it’s pretty much a joke to monitor your kids online, because there are so many sites, and they outlast you well into the night. But, do try to monitor them. Tell them to go to bed at night. Take away the computer. Set down rules, so they stay safe!

In today’s violent, nasty world, you as a parent must protect your kids. Keep your kids safe, even if it means you become the uncool, pain in the butt parent. You’re better off knowing your kids are safe and okay rather than becoming the next target for some mental patient! Copyright 2012, written by Kate Johns, who has been a professional freelance writer since 2004.


Don’t let your kids become depressed, ignored, or upset about school.

Without being a major hover parent, this is what you can do to help your kids from being ignored at school:

1. Check up on your child everyday, by asking how school was. Ask specific questions, not general ones. More specific questions, such as “In health class today, did you discuss  bullying?”

2. Set up email accounts with each one of your kids’ teacher’s in the beginning of the school year.You will maintain a regular connection with your kid’s teachers this way.

3. Go to your kid’s open houses. You will see your kid’s schools, their teachers, and other parents. You will get a general feel for the school, and for what the curriculum wull be for the year.

4. Set up conferences with your kid’s teachers.You will meet the teachers. You will discover if the teachers are good at their jobs, or if they are likely to ignore your kids.

5. Maintain a regular connection with your child. Always talk to your child about school, and her friends.

6. Volunteer at your kid’s schools. Volunteer for whatever you can for your kids’ schools. Become a parent leader, getting to know other parents.

7. Make sure you know who your kids’ friends are. Have your kids invite their friends to your home while you are home. This way, you can meet them and find out more about them.

8. Limit your kids’ time on the internet, watching TV, and using their cellphones, etc. Kids will be kids, and may become addicted to using their iPods, cellphones, computers, and every other technology invented recently. Limit their time on these technologies. Make certain your kids are doing their homework, and that they are not staying up until four in the morning texting friends.

9. Tell your child to be as awesome as she can be. In other words help your child to strive for bigger and better things. Encourage your child to strive for more things. This way, she will make more friends, and, thus feeling better about herself and about her school, her life, need I go on?

10. Take preventive action now, so that you do not have to take corrective action later.

Keep your kids from being ignored at school, by having them speak up in class, talk to their teachers, and always keep the lines of communication open with your child. Copyright 2012, written by Kate Johns a professional writer since 2004!

It is time to protect our children. The problem; kids killing each other with guns or other weapons at school.  Recently, a student of  Chardon High School outside of Cleveland Ohio opened fire on students eating breakfast in the high school cafeteria.

This has happened many times before, such as the now infamous Virginia Tech shooting deaths in 2007 of numerous college students where 32 students, and faculty were killed. Remember the now famous 1999 Columbine High School killings where two students shot and killed numerous students while police stood helplessly by as the two kids went from room to room shooting other kids, and teachers?

While millions of schools have taken measures to ensure kids safety at public schools, it is still not enough! It seems just a few short years ago, anyone could walk into any public school in America without any problems. Today, there are systems in place to keep out deranged people who are trying to kill, main, or injure our kids.

But the problem usually is the kids themselves. They walk into school with a gun and start shooting at large groups of kids. Usually it is a child that is angry or upset that other kids made fun of him, or a his girlfriend said something rude. Many times the child is upset because a group of kids teased him, bullied him or de-friended him.

The world is a different place today.

Years ago, kids would ignore, or give a hard time to any child that was different from they were. They were not accepting of kids that were, overweight, unintelligent, or very intelligent. Middle school, and high school kids have a certain need to fit in. When kids aren’t the same as the other kids, they are publicly given a hard time.

This still goes on today. But, kids are kids, and they continue hurting other kids feelings, intentionally, and unintentionally. And with kids having access to social networks, kids who are growing and have brains that are not fully developed until they are older, do not understand that one day what they are going through will be over. They will learn from what is happening, grow up and develop successful lives. Kids do not understand that what is happening now will not last forever.

Therefore, I am advocating that every school in America buy a machine that detects guns, knives and weapons. This may be costly to the school districts that initiate this plan. But students will be safer, than they are currently.

It is also time for adults to teach children that killing other kids is not the answer to their problems.  Parents of kids, and public school personnel need to start teaching kids to be kind to each other, and to not use social media as a way to isolate and harm other children.

I want my kids to have a great life. But I also know how hard it is on kids today with being bullied. I was bullied, and given a hard time when I was in middle school. It wasn’t an experience I would ever want anyone to go through. Because I was shy, skinny and tall I was given garbage by kids until I reached about 16.

It was rough. It is worse for teenagers and young adults today, because kids are ganging up on each other on social networks. They threaten, taunt and terrorize kids at school, in school hallways, anywhere and everywhere where teachers,school officials, and cameras are not present to see what is happening.The problem is many kids will just follow a larger kid, or the captain of the football team because they do not want to be ousted from the group.

My parents always told me to treat other people as I would want to be treated. I decided well into middle age, that I want to treat other people with respect, and friendliness. It’s something you would expect from other people right?

With the growth of social networks, kids think it doesn’t matter what they are saying. Teens think things like, ” Who cares what I say to someone else when I can’t see that person and they can’t see me. I can say whatever I want, and do whatever I want.”

But when one teenager is going through a difficult time, it is time for teenagers to stop and think. It is not normal to not accept other people because they are different from you. That’s what makes the world a great place; having different life experiences to lead a fulfilling, awesome life.

Parents need to start teaching their kids to be leaders, not followers. Parents, teachers and school administrators also need to teach kids to respect themselves and other people, and to accept other people’s differences.

Maybe kids should be faced with living life in another person’s shoes for one day to see what it is like to live the life of someone who is really thin, overweight or not popular. copyright 2011, written by Kate Johns who is a talented professional freelance author, who has been writing  since 2004!